So last week I penned about the paradox of having two techie teens who don’t necessarily always fit nicely into a stereotypical box. But wait – – there’s more!
Not only are the boys paradoxical within themselves, they also are so radically different from each other that I often wonder not only if they come from the same gene pool, but perhaps from the same species!
Case in point:
Laid back and easygoing
|Hyper and always moving|
|Thoughtful and cautious||Lives for the moment|
|Social butterfly||Bit of a loner|
|Wants to blend into the background||Always the performer|
|An old soul||Forever a kid at heart|
|Wants to change the world||Wants to change the channel|
|The devil is in the details||Can never see the forest for all the trees|
|Lover of words and pictures||Lover of science and imagination|
|A thinker||A doer|
|Vegetarian and pacifist||Happiest when fishing or shooting his air rifle|
I’ve often thought that these two young men needed two complete sets of parents to figure out how to yo-yo back and forth between their particular personalities and differences. Add a couple of disabilities to the mix, and you’ve got a smorgasbord of potential screw-ups in the parenting department.
I’ve made the sad mistake of trying to parent them the same, and I’ve made a similar mistake of trying to treat them as individual entities. The truth is, they are individuals, but they also share a heck of a lot – – same parents, same house, and because we have always homeschooled – – many of the same experiences. So the balancing act comes of understanding that they are forever intertwined, but still are always trying to find themselves.
Heck, I’m an only child, and I’m still trying to figure out who I am.
Think it will all come out in the wash??